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Changing the things I can change

Changing the things I can change

     There is this really awesome prayer which says “God, grant us the serenity to accept the things we cannot change, the courage to change the things we can, and the wisdom to know the difference.”. The words “us” and “we” can be changed to “me” and “I” if a person sees fit.  There is also the short version “fuck it.” The dude’s approach in “The Big Lebowski” does come in handy sometimes.” The longer version which I quoted above which is not the whole thing does carry a lot of weight.  We cannot change the events which took place in the past.  I cannot change the fact that people made fun of my weight or that bullies picked on me.  I can change the way I look at the past by forgiving.  Hard to do, but it is essential to try.  If you want to stop trying, keep trying anyway.  It is essential to forgive for the sake of emotional health.  I cannot change the fact that I am not going to be the next Roger Federer.  Too bad, right?  Courage to change sure is a tough concept to put into practice.  I can totally be the cowardly lion sometimes even though that is a temporary easy way out.  Well, I do not want to be the king of any forest.  That is a big responsibility.  

     Having courage to make positive changes is scary because it is unfamiliar territory.  Knowing the difference is pretty straight forward.  I can make positive changes which are within reasonable bounds.  I just need to have the courage to make them.  Easier said then done.  Sometimes, I need to call instead of email, or talk in person versus on the phone.  Not easy, but making changes like that make me useful  I can totally change the way I look at things.  I can change what I eat, my attitude towards things, my weight etc…  I cannot change how people think of me or how they react to me.  I often think I can.  Talk about a bullshit story.  I can change how I view other people.  If I can make a change that will result in my being useful to myself and others, that is a pretty good change.  If I say that I cannot do something in the present that I am capable of doing, I shut off all possibility.  I cannot change the fact the people get sick and die.  That word accept can be inconvenient sometimes because it can be hard to swallow.  What other choice is there?  Life has it’s ups and downs and curveballs, fastballs, sliders and sinkers, and change ups.  I can change how I deal with those situations.  I can accept what happens versus sitting in a timeout chair with my arms folded.  Accepting what I can and cannot change is a long process.  As I learn it, I become more and more serene.  Most of all, I become a useful person.    

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Autumn

Spring and summer sure went fast didn’t it? I am wondering where they went. Now, it is October, and we are certainly into autumn which is when the leaves get old, and turn beautiful colors before they die. The leaves falling off the tree is equal to the circle of life as well. We all have leaves falling off the tree metaphorically speaking, then new leaves bud and we are reborn with new ideas. What I mean is that we have something going on in our lives, and then we outgrow it and move on, or drop something we should not really have been doing in the first place and move on. The leaves are aging now and beginning to turn. The leaves turning and falling off the tree is not a long process, so it is important to enjoy it as it is important to enjoy the moment. Season changes all have their beauty to them, and the leaves turning is a beauty which is hard to top, especially in New England. Autumn is on the horizon, and the sunsets are currently as beautiful as they come, and the moon is currently almost full. If there is any season that goes by the fastest, I think it is autumn. Autumn is only getting started right now. As I look outside everything is quiet and calm. Eventually the wind will pick up and there will be leaves all over the place, which reminds me about George Carlin’s bit on baseball and football. He says “football begins in the fall, when everything is dying.” I am not sure where that came from exactly, but I wanted to quote my favorite comedian. So, I did. I just cannot believe how fast time flies. It feels like it just keeps going faster and faster. I am completely in the moment while I am writing this blog, because I have developed an affinity for writing. It is important to try to enjoy every moment of everyday, because time goes as fast as the leaves turning and falling off the trees if you really think about it. October is where we are now, and that is when the leaves look their most beautiful. By the time November rolls around, they are almost gone. Then they do not return until early April. As I am writing this, I appreciate the simple things in nature more. When I am not present, I usually think about myself. Certainly not about the things in nature. Winter is up after fall. I am not a fan of the cold, but the earth must turn on it’s axis, and life must keep going.

Autumn Is Here
Spring and summer sure went fast didn’t it? I am wondering where they went. Now, it is October, and we are certainly into autumn which is when the leaves get old, and turn beautiful colors before they die. The leaves falling off the tree is equal to the circle of life as well. We all have leaves falling off the tree metaphorically speaking, then new leaves bud and we are reborn with new ideas. What I mean is that we have something going on in our lives, and then we outgrow it and move on, or drop something we should not really have been doing in the first place and move on. The leaves are aging now and beginning to turn. The leaves turning and falling off the tree is not a long process, so it is important to enjoy it as it is important to enjoy the moment. Season changes all have their beauty to them, and the leaves turning is a beauty which is hard to top, especially in New England. Autumn is on the horizon, and the sunsets are currently as beautiful as they come, and the moon is currently almost full. If there is any season that goes by the fastest, I think it is autumn. Autumn is only getting started right now. As I look outside everything is quiet and calm. Eventually the wind will pick up and there will be leaves all over the place, which reminds me about George Carlin’s bit on baseball and football. He says “football begins in the fall, when everything is dying.” I am not sure where that came from exactly, but I wanted to quote my favorite comedian. So, I did. I just cannot believe how fast time flies. It feels like it just keeps going faster and faster. I am completely in the moment while I am writing this blog, because I have developed an affinity for writing. It is important to try to enjoy every moment of everyday, because time goes as fast as the leaves turning and falling off the trees if you really think about it. October is where we are now, and that is when the leaves look their most beautiful. By the time November rolls around, they are almost gone. Then they do not return until early April. As I am writing this, I appreciate the simple things in nature more. When I am not present, I usually think about myself. Certainly not about the things in nature. Winter is up after fall. I am not a fan of the cold, but the earth must turn on it’s axis, and life must keep going.

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